There are husbands and there are HUSBANDS!

There are many husbands but very few HUSBANDS!

I think it is imperative that every man takes a look at the job description of a husband; not according to what we think but according to the Word of God. While there are many duties of the husband, the major expectation God has for every husband is to love his wife exactly how Christ did. If you are to love your wife as Christ loved the church, there are certain things Christ has done for the church that you must be found doing as a husband; that means you must be a reflection of Christ to her (Ephesians 5:25-33). If Christ made all kinds of excuses for not doing His task on the earth, it would not have been acceptable by God. In fact, you and I would not be where we are today as Christians. Remember, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8); while we still have flaws and shortcomings, He is still there for us.  Well, the same goes for you. Your wife’s imperfections will never be a good enough excuse to show her anything contrary to love. It is the love Christ shows to us, that makes us draw closer to Him. If you are a HUSBAND indeed, doing what God has said by showing your wife love, any distance between the two of you can be cheaply dissolved. Please, if you are single now, aspire to be a HUSBAND indeed. The same way others see the presence of Christ in your life, let them be able to feel your presence in her life. Being a HUSBAND indeed is being the best example of Christ on the earth your wife has ever known, and it begins with love. Every other obligation as a husband will only flow out of a heart of love you have for your wife!



“…..for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous/worthy woman…..” (Ruth 3:11).

Boaz said this to Ruth and I thought it was such a powerful testimony of her. Even before he chose to marry her, he was obviously doing his homework, carrying out his “checks” on her. What do people say about you as a single man or woman? What do people say about the person you want to marry? He may be good to you but how does he treat others? She may respect you but is she rude to everybody else? Does she keep malice with others? Does he get into physical fights with others? Don’t overlook any negative behaviour please; otherwise you may end up being on the receiving end when you do get married! Earlier in that chapter, he commended Ruth for not going after young men, rich or poor. He was not going to just marry her blindly, he was paying close attention to her and he went by the results he got. What do others observe about you? What are your results like? Boaz was still talking about her with the people around and finding out information for himself, while observing her. The truth is that many single men and women have not been approached or given a chance simply because of their behaviour to others. They may look attractive on the outside but their inside is the exact opposite; how they treat others and handle situations is not a good testimony. Whoever you want to marry should be finding out about you from others and you also MUST do the same concerning your potential spouse. And when the “checks” are carried out, what are the results? Don’t say “that is how I am” if you have a bad temper; instead work on controlling your temper! Do the work required to make a person eager and willing to approach you and eventually marry you. When you carry out your “checks” on a potential spouse, what are the results? Don’t ignore what others say about them. Do your homework on the person and be observant. Don’t use the “he/she will change approach”. And don’t be blinded by the physical or how they treat you. How they treat others is also vital. How handsome or how beautiful a woman is cannot make up for any character flaws (dishonest, cunning, lack of integrity). If such things are not dealt with, there will be no change. When the results come in, critically analyse them before proceeding and don’t go further until you come to a point you believe, and are convinced that you both can co-exist in genuine peace!