Sex may be good, it may feel great and it may be exciting BUT it was designed by God EXCLUSIVELY for the M-A-R-R-I-E-D. The devil has perverted this beautiful creation by God and has made sex a free for all gift and unfortunately, the world has accepted it as the norm. It is so common that even those who claim to be bible believing Christians are engaged in physical intimacy forgetting that the same bible clearly tells us that marriage is honourable when the bed is undefiled (Hebrews 13:4). Many have taken the honour out of their marriages by being physically intimate before stepping into the marriage covenant and I tend to tell singles that anyone who wants to sleep with you before marriage is looking for a way to destroy your destiny in Christ; run from such a person as fast as you can. Say N-O to S-E-X before marriage! Use your courtship days to discuss real things that can affect your future marriage and family. The response I tend to get is “it is easier said than done”. Agreed! That is why the bible tells us to flee all appearances of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22). How can you do that? Have boundaries; no healthy relationship can stand without having set boundaries as part of the foundation. Boundaries keep you in check and prevent you as a Christian from tarnishing your testimony. During our courtship (which was for 4 short years), my husband and I always made sure we were not alone in enclosed spaces. We lived about 2 and half hours from each other at one point and anytime we visited each other, we talked about our future, our visions, and other things. We engaged in sporting activities such as tennis and jogging, and at one point, we started taking prayer walks together. He never once spent the night in my place and neither did I, at his place. I remember a particular day when it was snowing but that was no excuse. He was either going to go home or lodge in a hotel nearby: he ended up going home. If we were casual about that particular day, that would have only been the beginning. A lack of boundaries always takes you further than you mean to go and keeps you there longer than you mean to stay. Crossing boundaries during courtship will destroy a pure relationship no matter how spiritual you may be. So, you must be vigilant. I would like to point out that if he did stay over on that day, it would not have been a big deal as far as others may have been concerned; but, because we had a conviction in our hearts personally, whether anybody was aware of it or not, it helped us stick to the boundaries we had set. I personally believe that is part of what has helped us build a glorious home so far. Don’t follow the world’s way of doing things; set your own standard based on The Word of God to help you maintain a colourful testimony. You never know where you may end up in life and you must be able to stand as an instrument of God to prove that it is possible to say N-O to S-E-X before marriage!!