Some time ago, when the church organised a Valentine’s Day dinner, the tickets sold out and a lady came to me in tears asking for an exception to be made for her, because in her own words “this is the only time this year my husband would ever take me out or do anything romantic with me”. I had heard that statement before from some other women and even still do till today, but for whatever reason, her own particular case struck me; maybe because she was in tears. I couldn’t help but ensure she got the tickets. But then it got me thinking, how many husbands actually pay attention to their wives? Do you show your wife your appreciation in word and in deed? Are you attending to her hearts desires? The excuse I hear most times is that the focus of the husband is to provide for the family, he is too busy trying to take care of her and the children, etc. While that is valid, no excuse is good enough to neglect your wife. You may have heard that a woman is like a flower, and just like a flower, if she does not get the required attention; she never blooms, but rather withers up. Unfortunately, that is how some wives look and feel due to the lack of consistent attention from their husbands. Examine yourself as a husband and make all the necessary changes to see your wife flourishes again. No matter how busy you claim to be, you can never be too busy for whatever is important to you. Remember that it is your duty to “love your wife, as Christ loved the church….that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So men ought to love their wives….” (Ephesians 5:25-28). Christ cannot make us (the church) look glorious, and without spot or blemish, without paying attention to us, so take your cue from Him. Do you remember how you went out of your way to get her attention so you could date her? It didn’t take much for you to send her loving text messages, give her gifts and flowers whether it was her birthday or not, or just do simple things such as going for a walk, or spending time just to talk to each other. Ignite all that up again! Take time to help her around the house, take time to look after the children so she can rest, take time to tidy up the house every now and then; take time to ease the load on her shoulders, take time to build her up with your words. It does not make you less of a man but increases the admiration and respect she has for you. Every woman is different, so with the knowledge you have of your wife, do what you know will make her radiate, and keep her glowing. I once heard that the true index (measure) of a man’s character is the health of his wife. How radiant your wife is, tells the world all about your character!