I take a lot of pride in knowing that I as a woman, was the answer to man’s needs as far as God was concerned. So I don’t like seeing women who get married and add themselves to the list of their husband’s concerns. Please know that when you get married, your husband should be confident that your help would solve some lingering issues in his life. I know your life too should be enhanced however please don’t use that as an excuse to bring sorrow to him. Ensure that goodness and the favour spoken about in Proverbs 18:22 comes to life by your presence in his life. After counseling someone a few days ago, she said “I have purposed in my heart to bring nothing but joy to my husband and my household”. That’s the attitude that we should all have. Don’t complain about it and don’t take pride in being a troublesome woman! Stop making unwise statements like “Is it only the woman that has to bend backwards in marriage?” “Why can’t the man also do this and that?”. Just receive grace to do your own part. We should see it as a privilege from God; it should be seen as an honour and when we play our part willingly and joyfully, He in turn honours us. Most times, we never give God’s Word a chance; we are so moved by our feelings and emotions that we find faults with everything He tells us to do. One scripture I love is in 1 Peter 3:2, we are told there “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,when they see the purity and reverence of your lives”. That scripture is so powerful and literal but many women complain about it, never just doing what God says to see changes in their husbands and ultimately in the home environment. Always remember that God is a fair God and He has also told husbands what He expects of them if they don’t want to incur His wrath, so leave them to Him. If you go further down in that chapter, the husbands are told, “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers”. Aren’t you glad He is a just God? Marriage is not one-sided as many say it is. Just go to Him in prayer, ask for continuous grace, put that grace to work, get godly counsel, beware of evil counsel, guard your lips & guard your heart, and you will experience His best. If you are single now, begin from where you are. Stop being ruled by your emotions and let your spirit take over. Wherever you find yourself, be a blessing on purpose. Whatever the situation may be in your at the moment in your life, in your relationship, in your marriage, please give God’s Word a chance to work.