Luke 14:28-30 – “For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it. Lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish”?
Just like with any other good thing in life, a wonderful crisis-free marriage doesn’t come cheap; there is a major cost. That scripture above shows us one of the many costs required to have a great marriage; INVESTMENT. Starting something is never the issue, finishing it, is. That is why Jesus talks about having what is required to finish that tower or building. In monetary terms, an investment is futuristic; we don’t invest for now but for the future. At some point you may have sought advice from a financial planner about investing in your future and they may have told you that if you want to have a robust financial future, you must invest your money regularly.
How you do so may change with certain circumstances, but you must still continually invest in order to ensure a secure financial future. Those same principles apply in marriage or any relationship. There might be times when it’s easier (probably when the stock market is rising and you’re making money without even trying). And there will be times when, even though you are putting forth a lot of effort, things may still look like they are not going forward (like when the stock market dips). But your hanging in for the long haul with a futuristic picture in mind is what will guarantee success. As a single gentleman or lady who desires marriage, what investment have you made in yourself and in your future? I don’t mean just spiritual investment but in other areas such as improving your character, wise financial management, etc.
The truth is that God will give you a potential spouse and the template for a glorious marriage. But, it is what you do with both that determines whether you will have a glorious marriage or not. Invest in yourself so that you’re equipped to co-design your marriage with God and your future spouse. This can still apply in a marriage; as a husband or wife, sit down and do an appraisal of your marriage; talk it over with your spouse and decide what you need to invest for the sort of marriage you truly desire. Marriage itself demands continuous investment. There is a cost on your part – and it is big investment for an extra-ordinary marriage and little investment for an ordinary marriage. The cost may seem BIG but remember the benefits will also be BIG.
No matter how hard it looks, please know that you can bear the cost – engage God’s grace, use the bible, receive divine wisdom, read books, get the necessary counseling, etc. Do what you need to do; everything adds up. Whatever the case, both people must be willing and ready to regularly invest in themselves and in the relationship to make it flourish. Just like your finances, you can’t leave your marriage to grow without investment!