You are Royalty….


It was Mothers Day here in the UK on the 15th of this Month and we organised an Afternoon Tea (it’s a British thing lol) with the King of Kings to celebrate all the ladies in the church. Below is a summary of what I was privileged to share with them. I hope, every lady (married or single) embraces this and carries herself as a daughter of the King!

You come from royalty. Yes! You do! The bible calls you a crown of beauty in God’s hand; and a royal diadem in His hands (Isaiah 62:3). He has created you as a treasure, as the apple of His eye (Zechariah 2:8). In Isaiah 5, God compared His people to a vineyard planted on a fruitful hill, thriving, well taken care of, embellished, protected and decorated with beauty. Everything that could be invested to make it bear good fruit was done for it (verse 4 says “what could have been done more to my vineyard, that I have not done in it…?) That is what God has said about you.

He is ready to beautify you,
He is ready to invest into you,
He is ready to answer your prayers so you can enjoy fulfilment,
He is ready to please you with everything that makes your royal status reflect in all that concerns you.
In fact, He has done so already.

What you need to do is walk in that truth. Remember, He calls you a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9). Royals always command attention wherever they go and they carry themselves with self-worth, with dignity, with poise. Carry yourself today and always as the royalty your Father has made called you. When you are conscious of your royal status, it shows in you as a single lady. It shows in you as a wife. It shows in everything! Most importantly, you are able to pass that same royal mind-set to your offspring children when the time comes, thereby securing the next generation.

Remember that vineyard? It was not living up to its potentials, it was not living up to God’s expectations of it despite the fact that everything required was already available. Don’t let anyone or anything cause you to miss out on your royal status! Instead, live up to it, enjoy this honourable positon God has placed you in.

Use the images and scriptures in this special gift as a reminder of who you are! Let them minister to you on a personal level. Whatever your desires may be, I know that Your Father who has sent for you, will release them into your hands with speed. From today, think royally! Speak royally! Act royally!

Remember, you are a crown of beauty! You are a royal diadem! You are a daughter of the King of Kings!

You  are royalty!

Locate your purpose now…


Every man and woman was created for something. Haven’t you heard, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born, I set you apart…” (Jeremiah 1:5). You are not just to be on the earth, roaming about and waiting to just be married; you and I are here to impact others positively. Have a vision and a plan of where you are going in life (Proverbs 29:18). As a single woman, it must not be heard of you that you are waiting for your husband before you get moving; that is unwise. No man wants a liability, every man wants an asset; someone who will add value to his mission on the earth. Locate a purpose for your life! There are many women whose goals are just to cater to their family (husband and children) alone. While there is nothing wrong with that, it cannot be the ONLY thing you are doing. The children will grow up and leave to fulfil their own purpose on the earth. When that becomes a reality in your life, what next? While you are catering to your family at home, have a passion and vision for something so that when the children do step out in life, you don’t spend eternity trying to figure out your next step in life. You are not just to meet the needs of your family, others outside your family must testify to the impact you made in their lives while you were on the earth. Go to God in prayer and locate a purpose for your life; ask God specifically what He has given life to you for, and pursue it, as you wait to be found. The same goes for a man. You are to be the breadwinner of the family anyway, so this is not optional for you. However, you must locate the reason for your existence so you are not frustrated. If you don’t know what your assignment is in life, how can you relay it effectively to the one who is to be a helpmeet (wife) to you, the one who is to help you get to your destination? Have a detailed plan, so that SHE that reads it can run with it, with ease and clarity (Habakkuk 2:2). Any woman who is hesitant to follow her husband, the leader of the family is usually that way because the man himself is unsure of where he is going. Locate your own purpose. There is nothing more frustrating than a leader who has no idea where he is going. I heard someone say that if you don’t know where you are going, anywhere you get to will look like your destination, and sooner or later, you will lose the confidence of your followers. As a man or woman, in this critical time of your life (single days), make sure that you use it to build yourself up to be an asset to your spouse, family and the world at large!

Give them what you owe them…


One thing that every parent owes the next generation is showing them the importance of keeping the way of the Lord and how to go about doing so. Abraham’s testimony comes to mind about how he taught his children to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice. Wouldn’t you love such a testimony? One where God is so sure of your character and what you would do. I certainly would love that to be my story. It is so important that our christian walk as parents is such an inspiration to our children. One that causes them to desire to follow Christ and even feel as though they are missing out on “the good life”, if they don’t. That is a debt we owe them to preserve their future. Let them confidently attribute their good standing with God to the impartation of His grace through your life. Provide spiritual meat and direction for your family, and your godly inheritance will be secure. Meditate on the scripture in Genesis 18: 17-19, and let it enrich your spirit man. For emphasis, please see it below

“…The Lord said, “Shall I hide from Abraham what I am about to do, 18 since Abraham will surely become a great and mighty nation, and in him all the nations of the earth will be blessed? 19 For I have chosen him, so that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing righteousness and justice, so that the Lord may bring upon Abraham what He has spoken about him.”

A great testimony of Abraham, isn’t it? May that be ours too, in Jesus name. Amen! May the grace to give our children what we owe them be ours in abundance!

Do what it takes..


If you feel as though you have made some fundamental mistakes that may have negatively impacted your marriage and family life, please know that the One who created marriage is still alive and at work in many homes across the globe today. Don’t give up hope; the breakdown can be repaired, the love can be restored. Rejoice in the fact that it is not man that created marriage, if not we would all be in big trouble. But God who upholds all things by the Word of His power (Hebrews 1:3) is the one who can uphold that marriage. That means that your own marital case is not over. Close your ears to the negative experiences of others and the negative counsel of others. Go after His prescription from His Word and fully apply them; you will see amazing changes. Don’t condemn yourself or blame yourself because that will get you nowhere. As long as you accept responsibility, God is willing and ready to ensure that home is put back together again. As a wife, receive grace to submit (Ephesians 5:22). As a husband, receive grace to love (Ephesians 5:25). Both of you receive grace to submit to each other out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21). If your husband is not behaving as he should, he can be won over by your conduct (1 Peter 3:1). If you wife is not behaving as she should, treat her well and your prayers you offer up to God will be answered (1 Peter 3:7). Use wisdom, use knowledge, use understanding (Proverbs 24:3). If your desire is the restoration of your home, just as it is God’s desire, you have to be willing to do what it takes without blaming the other person. As Apostle Paul told Timothy, “meditate on all you receive and give yourself wholly to them, then your profiting will appear unto all” (1 Timothy 4:15). Even if things are going well, keep working at it. The level of rest in a home has no substitute but it is expensive. Be willing to pay the price; be willing to do whatever it takes. A crisis-free family life doesn’t come cheap. God has given each one what it takes; use it to your advantage!

A good wife….


A good wife is her husbands pride and joy; but a wife who brings shame on her husband is like a cancer in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4). As a wife, which one are you? Many times, your conduct determines the respect your husband gets. Remember the proverbs 31 woman? It is because of her, that her husband is respected (Proverbs 31:23). Don’t take pride in being a thorn in your husband’s flesh! Even as a single, if you are a concern to everybody, you will be a major concern to your husband! Meditate on that scripture and begin to align yourself so that you can indeed be a crown on your husbands head. Don’t allow your emotions to control you negatively. Ask God for the grace to indeed live up to His expectations; after all he calls you a good thing when you become a wife. Don’t disappoint Him!