Just like there are rules that govern every institution in the world, the same goes in marriage. The rules are there to maintain order, to keep each student within the boundary lines. Students are expected to behave a certain way, professors are expected to behave a certain way, citizens of a country are expected to behave a certain way, and even presidents are expected to behave a certain way. When we begin to step out of line, the consequences are undesirable. The bible tells us that all things should be done decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14:40), so that tells us that God is a God of order. He has given us the rules required to ensure that in marriage, there is order. As soon as you decided to sign the dotted lines of the marriage covenant, you became bound by His rules and you are expected to abide by them. Many people who are experiencing crisis in their family lives have not only bent the rules, they have completely broken them. These rules are found in the bible; as a husband, you are told be exactly like Christ (Ephesians 5:25) – you are to be a protector, a savior, an encourager, among other things. You are not to be selfish, you are not to be a bully, and you are not to be one that exposes your wife’s weaknesses. As a wife, God created you to be helper (Genesis 2:18), an assistant, an asset a crown on your husband’s head. You are not to be a thorn, a nagger, a liability, a concern, etc. For whatever reason, many of us refuse to stay within the confines of their God given roles and wonder why things are not going well. It’s because the rules have been broken. And these rules are broken because we can be so bent on allowing our flesh to rule us. If only we understand that the rules are for our own good; remember that His commandments are not burdensome (1 John 5:3). Please do your best to abide by the rules we have been given to experience a blissful family life. Remember that if you choose to break the rules, the consequences will not only affect you, but generations to come!