A marriage that is void of joy and genuine laughter will be full of tension and strife. It can be disheartening to see a couple and even a family that lacks any iota of genuine joy. Where there is joy and laughter, any challenges that may arise do not look as intimidating as they should be. Examine your family life to weed out areas that may be affecting the joy that should be so evident in marriage and work on getting them out at all cost. Joy is so crucial that it affects ones health (Proverbs 17:22); that is why an environment of strife breeds unwell, depressed, and angry people. Bear in mind that it also affects your children. Take time to consciously laugh with your spouse today and everyday, and stop taking yourself so seriously. Even if you are not yet married, the same applies. If you relationship is like a graveyard right now, one can only imagine what the marriage will be like. If everybody is walking on egg shells around you, if your home environment is filled with tension on any level, if your children are not enjoying their childhood, you should be concerned. Any such environment is the perfect place for the enemy and his cohorts to come in. Therefore, make it a point of duty to ensure that joy unspeakable is tangible in your family life!
Crisis-Proof Your Family is focused on providing resources and teachings that would positively impact individuals, marriages and families across the globe.
The aim is to:
* EQUIP individuals with what is required to build a Christian home according to God’s divine pattern. This is done by pointing interested individuals to sound Biblical truths and practical examples.
* EDUCATE individuals by showing them exactly what to do in order to avoid the great pitfalls that many marriages and families have experienced.
*ENRICH every member of the family, thereby bringing to life God’s concept of marriage and the family.
Crisis-Proof Your Family is for:
SINGLE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN who want to prepare adequately during their single days and while in their relationships, for a godly marriage.
MARRIED COUPLES who want to build and maintain a blissful and fulfilling marriage and family.
PARENTS who want nurture the next generation for greatness, impact and relevance in the world, thereby impacting their lineage.
The scriptural foundation for CPYF is Matthew 7:24-27. Jesus speaking, said,
“Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.
And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it”
In line with that scripture, Kemi believes that to have a family free of crisis, it is not enough to be a Christian and it is not enough to hear what to do; there must be an application of the knowledge received from the Word of God in order to overcome the storms of life.
Therefore, her mission with CPYF is to help individuals and families stand through the challenges of life!
It’s great to have those who inspire us but it’s so much more rewarding when we also give back and become an inspiration to others. Let someone look at your life, your family, your career, etc and just be inspired. Show them that despite their gender, they can scale heights. Show them that despite their past mistakes, God can still bring out the treasures in them. Show them that despite their disabilities, they can still attain unimaginable feats. Show them that those same disadvantages they feel they have, can actually be their advantage. Make someone, anyone feel as though there is nothing they cannot do. Let people be stimulated to do something extraordinary just by looking at your life. They don’t need to know you personally, they don’t have to have ever spoken to you before. Many of us are constantly looking for those who can inspire us to be more than we are now; that is good and even necessary. However, our reward lies in giving back to others by inspiring them.
“Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Among other things, to train means to instruct by example. You must SHOW your children what to do. They are more interested in what you are doing than what you are saying. You have to be honest if you want your children to be honest. You can’t teach them to love or forgive others when you don’t show love or forgiveness towards your spouse. You cant tell them to handle issues calmly, when you are always raising your voice at them, at their father/mother, or anybody else. You teach them such things by actually DOING such things. A great coach always show the athlete what to do by example and ensures that athlete does it consistently until it becomes a part of them. Most of the problems we see in the society today begin from the home. Parenting is demanding; it is a high calling with great responsibilities. The children we are raising are the leaders of tomorrow. They are to be champions in life; the ones to preserve the coming generations and advance the kingdom of God based on what we have invested in them. We must see ourselves as the coaches and do what we can, with the help of God, to ensure they turn out right. And glory be to God, we have the Word of God as our training manual to raise them up in the right way. Lay your hands on that great manual and utilize it diligently. Their lives depend on it. As you do, your own children will stand out in life.
It’s important to know your worth when it comes to marraige. Please don’t marry anyone who feels like he or she is doing you a favour by getting married to you. If a man or woman feels you are unworthy of them, loose them and let them go! Don’t beg anybody to love you and please don’t claim God told you that is your spouse; God values you and He expects your spouse to do the same! Be wise! Anyone who marries you like that would never esteem you and you would be most miserable😭😒. It is better to be on your own than live such a life. Marry the one who considers you a blessing😃😉 and a positive addition👍 to his/her life! Whether you are a man or woman, please view yourself as valuable, as top class👌, as unique, and carry yourself that way; stop settling for just anybody; God would send you a spouse to match your worth👏!
There was a married woman who was bent the entire time on justifying why she wanted to leave her husband. And she kept emphasising the fact that she did not need any counselling not to leave him. She went on and on about the fact that her husband was the one who needed major help, “he is the one with the problem, he is the one who is doing everything wrong in the marriage, and in fact he needs to be born again, again” she said. It was a funny but not so funny situation. Believe it or not, she said she had done everything right and she had no faults; she was simply perfect. I know that sounds familiar to you. She was asked, “ma’am do you really think you have done nothing wrong?” And her response was “well, I don’t mean it that way, I mean he has done most of the damage”. The only way she would stay with him, according to her was if he changed for the better. Do you know that is exactly what many married couples who are experiencing challenges say? Many husbands and wives want to change their situation, change their spouses, change their environment yet they refuse to change themselves. They want to see change but they believe that it is their spouse that must do the work to generate the change. That is not the right attitude to have; God will not step in to change a situation if YOU and I are not willing to take responsibility to do our own part. No matter how terrible you believe your spouse may be, it still takes the actions of both people in the marriage to experience a breakdown. Stop waiting for your spouse to change and you get going. Stop wasting time complaining about him/her to everybody who wants to hear about your marital woes. You just take positive actions, and they will follow suit. To the glory of God, the woman and her husband are still going strong in their marriage with God’s help. As soon as she changed her mind-set and her actions, he didn’t have a choice but to do the same. The Bible tells us in 1 Peter 3:1 “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives”; the same goes for the husbands. Remember that if you want to see a change in your family life, it begins with you. The best thing to do is receive grace continuously to do your own part and God, who is not blind, will reward you.
A disastrous foundation for marriage is basing your choice of a spouse on their physical appearance. Please note that physical appearance does not exist perpetually. You must look beyond the external when making the decision of whom to marry. Proverbs 31:30 says “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised”. Looks are really not everything! Single women and men are always looking for a man or woman that looks a particular way, to the extent of shunning some potential spouses who, in actual fact may be God’s choice for them. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to your future spouse, we should be asking God for someone who has a heart after Him, someone who has a glorious future, someone who will add value to you and someone who will be a willing participant in ensuring God’s concept of marriage is established in your own home. A person who has a heart for God may go to the extent of making the beauty and the qualities in you stand out unlike the one who is only handsome or beautiful for nothing; with nothing to offer. What is the point of being married to someone who is so handsome or so beautiful yet has a bad character and is not willing to change or is constantly tearing you down, among other things? That is not God’s intention of marriage. Looks are illusive; everything that is required to build a formidable home is beyond it. To go into marriage because of the physical appearance of a person is to set your future home up for destruction. When I see people who are so obsessed with the looks of a person, it brings to light that person’s immaturity. When any man approaches you as a lady, look inward first; pay more attention to his spirit, his character, etc. The same goes for any man who has his eye on a lady; look inward. Accept this truth: it is the heart of a person that makes him/her attractive, not the outward appearance. Placing all your attention on the outward appearance is the beginning of trouble. Look to God to make the right choice!