Some years ago, a friend of mine was getting married and everybody was so excited about it except her; she was just not at peace concerning it. Many of us didn’t really understand what the issue was because this gentleman was handsome, born again, and spirit filled. She really wanted to get married and she tried to hold on to him and although she was not at peace, she couldn’t really understand what her reservations were. We saw that her enthusiasm and excitement became less and less as the wedding day got closer so we began to pray for her and asked the Holy Spirit to reveal whatever was wrong, to her. So much effort went into the planning but guess what, two weeks before the grande wedding was to take place, it was called off! It was a shock to everyone and it was a terrible season in her life. Although she cried every night for months, although she was extremely embarrassed, she knew in her heart of hearts that he was not the one for her. The gentleman was not a bad person at all. He was good but He was not for her. And because she was in tune in her spirit, she was able to discern and not allow her emotions to lead her down the wrong path in marriage. I personally believe that God was protecting her from whatever was down the line.
As a single lady or gentleman who is looking forward to marriage, it is important that you don’t bypass the leading of the Holy Spirit when making your decision to get married. Whatever you do, ensure you are fully spirit led. Forget the excitement of everyone and be real with yourself. Surrender yourself to God; let Him take over. Yes, that lady, that gentleman may be wonderful but is he/she God’s best for you? Don’t force that relationship; your times are in God’s hands (Psalm 31:15) so don’t let pressure be your motivator. He knows what is to come so He is the best Person to show you which way to go and whom you should go with. There is a definition of wait that I love so much – “Remaining in readiness for a purpose”. That is my point to you today. Marriage has a purpose but that purpose cannot be established if you enter this institution carelessly. The coming together of a man and woman in marriage should not be aimless but purposeful. If you rush or move too slow, you may miss the purpose.
I really applauded her courage to call it off despite all the resources and emotional investment that went into the relationship, and despite what people will say or think. In fact, I recall someone being angry about having to spend so much money preparing for the wedding that never took place and I asked this individual “would you rather hear about her being miserable in the marriage at the end of the day? Is how much you spent worth her peace of mind?” Of course that was the end of that conversation. I am quite passionate about singles because there is still a chance of preventing undesirable situations and there is a saying that “prevention is better than cure“. In the book of Proverbs 16:25, and Proverbs 14:12, we are told that “there is a way that appears to be right but its end is the way of death“.
That destructive end can only be avoided when we don’t hurry but move according to God’s timing and direction. For my friend, I also thank God for honouring her because a few years later, God’s best for her showed up unexpectedly. And that’s how God works. Habakkuk 2:1 talks about waiting to see hear what God has to say before making a move; that’s exactly how it should be if we don’t want to miss what God has in store. When you move according to His rhythm, you find that what He gives to you is far better than what you had in mind for yourself (Ephesians 3:20). It’s my prayer for you that you hearken to the voice of the Lord and receive strength & grace to just wait!