I always knew that the responsibilities that come with being a woman were enormous. However, it made no difference to me until I became a wife, a mother, and worked outside of the home. Phew..that’s when I knew it was serious business – I am sure you ladies out there know what I am talking about. If care is not taken, it can shock you, overwhelm you, or even wear you out…. naturally. I had seen other women handle their various responsibilities but I truly felt the pressure when I left my single days behind and my various responsibilities expanded. Women wear so many hats…. wife, mother, family manager, accountant, lawyer, etc.,…that is A LOT of work!! But that’s the story of a woman’s life. One thing I have learnt though, is to never complain about the various things I have to do. My husband often says that “where you are is someone else’s prayer point“, and that statement has been more than enough to keep me in check. I also believe that we ladies have a very special place in God’s heart. I mean it’s such a privilege for Him to give us all these responsibilities; I always remind myself that it’s because He knows we can handle it, and many of us do it so flawlessly by His grace. I want to encourage you as a woman, more importantly, as a Value Adding Woman, never to see your roles as a burden but as a privilege. It has shown me that God knows the strength that we ladies posses. How won’t He? After all, He created us, right? People often ask me how I manage to balance a lot of what I do, and I always tell them it comes down to the state of my spirit. That’s something I don’t joke with because that is what keeps me going, no matter how tired I may feel. To be effective in all the different things we have to do, the state of our spirits is of utmost importance. The bible tells us to be fervent in spirit (Romans 12:11). To be fervent means to have a burning intensity for something. It means to build yourself up continuously in the Spirit. Why? Because when the spirit is alive, the body has not choice but to follow suit, even when naturally you are tired. Be determined to grow spiritually and it will help you handle all your roles effortlessly. Don’t let a day go by without studying the Word of God, and praying, especially in the Spirit. Don’t put pressure on yourself; do what works for you and then you’ll keep growing. Its important to do everything joyfully too, don’t get weary in doing well (Galatians 6:9), and don’t hang around those who try to make you see your various roles as a burden. Surround yourself with those who help you grow spiritually, and otherwise. Rest when you need to, because the human body does need to rest and recuperate but I can assure you that as long as your spirit is alive, you will be just fine. The bible also tells us that it’s the spirit of a man that sustains his infirmity, but a wounded spirit, who can bear? (Proverbs 18:14). Women are the live-wire who keeps the family affairs going, and guess what? The enemy knows this, so he would try to bring you down. Proverbs 17:22 also tells us that a crushed spirit dries the bones. So do not let your spirit be crushed for a second. Keep reminding yourself that God has fully equipped you for all your assignments, and be determined to keep your spirit tempo up. That is what will sustain you in the long run!
It’s amazing how technology has evolved over time. Looking back 10 years ago, I don’t think many of us would have believed that the world is the way it is now. The evolution of technology and social media has really been an interesting journey. It allows us to communicate instantly despite the distance between us. I am often amazed at how God created our brains to come up with such things. While I appreciate the phase we have been going through with social media and everything in between, I have also seen that too much of it, like most things, is really not a good thing. It really has a way of taking away the human touch that was once so cherished between individuals. Specifically, it has done so much damage to many homes, separating husbands and wives, and families, though unintended. It’s not unusual these days to see a husband and wife sitting face to face, supposedly talking to each other, yet each person is doing their own thing on a phone, tablet or some kind of system, and watching TV at the same time, while the children are also on various tablets! It’s also not unusual to see a husband and wife emailing each other to have a conversation though they share the same room. In fact the rate at which it has trickled its way down to the children, I sometimes wonder what my children’s generation will be like, if this is where mine is. The sad thing is that it has become much too normal. And it needs to be nipped in the bud before it completely takes over our relationships. It is so important that you limit your time on all your devices, including your phone, TV, and anything else. Have a set time when you go on and when you must be offline. And when you go to bed, put your phone (and everything else) far from you or discipline yourself not to wake up in the middle of the night, looking for your phone to check that one email or anything else (most of us have been there)! Don’t use the excuse that your job demands it. You can still take a break for a few hours. I think how far the internet has come is such a good thing but like every other thing, we must discipline ourselves and how we use it. It should be used in moderation! Like never before, technology and all that comes with it, has hindered the intimacy in many marriages and families. It is what has, to some degree, divided some homes. Many husbands or wives, have found themselves even getting into relationships and various things that they should have had no business with in the first place. Don’t let yours be part of it and don’t accept it as the norm! It sounds so minor however, consciously watch your regular pattern when it comes to your phone, iPad, or whatever tablet you use, etc! If you are honest with yourself, you will agree that your intake of it is like an overdose! It can happen to the best of us and requires our conscious effort to break free from it. While it’s ok to use social media to our advantage – whatever that is, remember that the word of God tells us that though all things may be lawful or ok to do, not all things are beneficial to us; not all things actually add value to us – 1 Corinthians 10:23. Please take control of it so it doesn’t control you or your home/relationships!