One of my favorite quotes is by a gentleman named Matthew Henry. He said “peace is such a precious jewel that I would give anything for it, but truth”.
That statement speaks volumes to me and I agree with it so much. There is absolutely nothing like having peace. Whether it’s peace of mind, peace within, peace in the environment; PEACE just can’t be replaced with anything else. The definition of peace is freedom from disturbance; tranquility. Who doesn’t like that? I know I do. Now, let’s talk about it as far as our relationships and marriages go. I have learnt from some marriages that I have been privileged to observe, that there’s nothing worse than living with a quarrelsome or troublesome person. A definition of troublesome is causing difficulty or annoyance. In fact, I call them men and women of war.
That is they are never at peace when there is peace! They create something out of nothing in a negative sense; they find faults, they nit pick, they argue every chance they get. They are never satisfied unless there is a fight! It sounds funny, but may God deliver us from such people. Even if some things must be discussed, you don’t have to end up in a war zone. The bible calls such people fools – those that just insist on arguing and fighting till the end. To have such a person as spouse is to never have peace of mind. Whether you are married or single, ask yourself, ‘am I such a person’? If you are, please make some changes. That’s not a good trait to have so don’t be proud of it. Don’t be proud of being a troublemaker! Don’t be proud of being a concern in your home. Ask God to help you accept that fault and make changes.
While reading through the book of Proverbs some time ago, I discovered that even the bible feels bad for anyone married to a quarrelsome wife. So much so that it tells us it’s better to live on the corner of the rooftop and risk your life than live with a contentious wife (Proverbs 25:24). It also says it’s better to live far away in the desert than with a nagging wife. Imagine that! I believe it goes both ways because some men have such traits.
Whatever the case, please strive to be a man or woman of peace! And I mean genuine peace… The God kind of peace. In fact, peace is a proof that Jesus Christ is in your relationship or family because He is the Prince of peace. I’ll take it so far as to say that if you are a person of war, you are not spiritual at all, no matter how much you claim to be. To be spiritually minded is life and it is PEACE; to be carnally minded is death (Romans 8:6). Which one are you? It will show in your output. And remember the bible says we should do our very best to be at peace with all men (Romans 12:18, Hebrews 12:14).
When I speak to single ladies and gentlemen, I love to stress the importance of peace. If you pray for anything in a spouse, please at the top of your list should be a man or woman of peace. Listen, no matter what you have, if you don’t have peace, you have nothing!