Pastor Billy Joe…

Some people have an impact on you that time cannot erase. Billy Joe Daugherty was such a person. He is one of those “Everytime I think of you, I give thanks to my God” people – Phil. 1:3. He was my Pastor in Tulsa & founder of the High School I attended @vcstulsa. Till today, my parents are members of that church. He was amazing and his humility was breathtaking. In fact, his heart for people was beyond human comprehension. It is from him that I first learnt the importance of reaching out to the lost! I remember the first day I met him; he was walking in the hallway. He stopped by my locker and asked my siblings and I our names, then said, “y’all are Nigerians!”😝. He went on to rave about the late Archbishop Benson Idahosa.

I still didn’t know who he was until the chapel service I saw him on the altar teaching. Boy, was I shocked! That was him for you; just like a regular guy. After services, he would stand by the door and shake people’s hands😳. This was a church with about 10,000 (if not more) people in attendance. A lot of people (including myself) would literally wait just to get a handshake. I loved him too much! There was a day when he was conducting the altar call, a man walked down and punched him x2. I wasn’t in the service but it hurt me😂; you would have thought it was my face. I kept saying but why would someone do that to my sweet pastor? In true fashion, right there my Pastor wiped off the blood on his face, talked about forgiveness and asked God to forgive the man. He also visited this same man when he was in jail, to minister to him!

Pastor Billy Joe went to be with the Lord some years ago after an illness. His death really affected me and I had to come to the point of just thanking God for the opportunity of meeting someone like him. He literally showed me what the love of Christ is all about. Whenever I’m in Tulsa, I attend Victory and I MUST take a picture by this sign. My husband and I talk about him often (he also attended the church) Till today, I read his books and listen to his messages. That’s the power of impact. I dedicate#fridayreflections to him. For teaching me how to forget self & focus on others while reflecting Christ. He’s a #valueaddingman-K

Get your confidence from God’s Word

If you place emphasis on how people make you feel, you’ll be depressed! Your self worth should never be put in the hands of anyone. Today, people love you, tomorrow, they ignore you. Some may claim to love you with their heart & lungs and tomorrow, they may not think highly of you at all! Even when we have the best intentions, we sometimes disappoint. Your worth, your value is all in God’s Word. This is someone who has said He loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). Do you realise what that means? A love that can never end. Wow! If that doesn’t put a spring in your step, I don’t know what will.

The only thing that can’t change is God & His Word! What people thought of me affected me until I pumped myself with God’s Word and saw exactly what He thinks of me as fact and as truth! If you like, love me, if you like hate me, if you like, like me, you’re on your own. My eyes remain in one direction – above! Begin to see yourself the way God sees you. You know that scripture we sometimes quote casually? Yes that one – Psalm 139:14 (look it up). It carries life and power. If you really meditate on it and let it sink deep in your heart, you will never see yourself as less than you really are! So… don’t let anyone make you think you are less valuable than them. That person has their own shortcomings and struggles (don’t we all?). They may be working on them with the help of God but they are not exempted from flaws. Stop wishing for their life! The Bible calls that – foolishness (2 Corinthians 10:12).

Strive everyday to be a better version of yourself and stay in your lane. Learn from others but have your own unique twist. Don’t try to be exactly like anybody else because you will fall short. You can only be you. And you can only be the best version of yourself when your self esteem and confidence are drawn from God’s Word! What scriptures are dwelling in your heart about you? If you have none, locate some. Once you do that, thoughts of “this person is better than me”, “that person didn’t appreciate or acknowledge me”, “why isn’t my own life like theirs?”, will fade away like ashes in the wind👊🏾– K #fridayreflections#keepwalkinginthegreatlight


I’m grateful to mentor/be mentored by women from various walks of life and I love to learn from my peers and from those who are coming up. From business, media, fashion, ministry, etc to wives, to mothers, to professionals… you name it. If it’s by a woman or even a girl😊, I’m inspired. Especially by the one who draws her inspiration from the Bible for everything. Those whose light shine brightly that we cannot help but take notice and glorify God. I consider such women #valueaddingwomen. They have added much value to me and in turn, I confidently add value to others. I’ve learnt that I cannot give what I don’t have no matter how hard I try. So unless I add value to myself through the Word of God and through learning from others, anything I give out will be valueless.

For a long time under the Crisis-Proof Your Family platform, I maintained a section for the#valueaddingwoman & after much prayer, I’ve been inspired to dedicate an Instagram account to it – @valueaddingwoman. If you’re on Instagram, come and join us!
I’m excited! It’s purpose – A blog/community for women of all calibers (and ages), to inspire others, and be inspired. We’ll share daily quotes from women around the world who have added undeniable value. Some have wounds and scars to show but never stopped walking in their purpose. Some have made mistakes & those mistakes are now their message. Some have literally been knocked down but not out💪🏾! These women have continued to add value in spite of the hurdles, and wow… It’s inspiring!

Beyond that, we’ll share from men who have in their own way, and with their words, inspired women. Nothing adds more value than God’s Word so expect scriptures that will inspire you to be all God has created you to be. You may know some of these women or you may have never heard of them before. It doesn’t matter; just be inspired. Please share your story(ies) to inspire; if you know any women (or girls) who inspire, tag us (or send a DM) and we’ll repost. Send prayers, encouragement, scriptures, testimonies… anything that’ll add value to us! So tell a girl, to tell a lady to tell a woman😆… The V.A.W club is here💃🏽 – K! #valueaddingwoman#inspireandbeinspired #light#keepwalkinginthegreatlight