As a husband, your’e meant to protect your wife, not beat her down. You are her covering as the head of the home. You are likened to Christ. The husband is told to love like Christ but it doesn’t stop there. It tells us exactly the actions He took to prove His love. Among other things, making her Holy and clean, and washing her by the cleansing of God’s Word (Ephesians 5:26) is not just a statement, it is an expectation, the responsibility of the husband. That is why you must be sound spiritually as the head of the home.
Stop basking in that role and prove that role. Make her into the woman you want her to become. Every man wants a virtuous woman. A virtuous wife is likened to a crown on her husband’s head (Proverbs 12:4); well the owner of the crown needs to take care of the crown. Your wife is far from perfect. She has some little quirks here and there that may annoy you but love finds no fault. Be determined to make her a better version of herself as you rely on God’s help. No woman hates to be loved especially by her husband. It would stretch you and it may frustrate you but as you keep loving, it will change her for the better, which will change you for the better, which will change your marriage for the better. Who doesn’t want that?
As a single gentleman, understand what Christ’s kind of love really means. Be real with yourself; If you know you’re not ready to make such a commitment, marriage should be a no go area for you until further notice. In marriage, there may be days you may even feel like loving or forgiving, etc but with deep love, with God’s love, we see everything through God’s eyes. Which helps us demonstrate God’s nature easily. If you love her rightly, just like we are with Christ, you will easily win her submission, her reverence, her honour.
I’ve admonished my fellow women about the importance of us acknowledging the place of our husband’s in the home (see yesterday’s post). Husbands, also align yourself. God’s design of marriage is not one sided. If each person accepts their own responsibility and runs with HIS laid down principle of marriage, things must work. The fact that some people are not doing what they are meant to do, doesn’t nullify God’s original design.