I’ve learnt that when disciplining my children, my goal should always be to infuse godly character traits in them. It’s not about proving to them who’s the boss! I can’t decide what career path they will take because God has that figured out already. I only need to pray that He orders their steps and they are sensitive to His leading while my husband and I guide them rightly. The one thing we have power over is the kind of character we want them to have. Disciplining them should always be about moulding their character, attitudes, etc properly.
When we infuse our children with honesty, integrity, respect for authority, obedience, etc no matter what profession they pursue, no matter where they find themselves, even in their relationships and marriages, those qualities will find expression, benefitting them and those around them. Don’t discipline in anger or out of frustration. If you respond to them in anger, they will respond to everyone else in anger. Do it in love always. Do it with the end goal of a godly character in mind. Learn to calm down first before giving them the consequences of what they may have done wrong.
It will take prayer, time and a whole lot of faith but we must look at it like their lives depend on it. Your peace of mind depends on it (Proverbs 29:17). The more you want out of your children, the more you must be willing to invest in them. Always remember that there is a right way to discipline that will provoke the right results. Many parents discipline but use the wrong approach so it never produces the right fruit in their children.
Use the Word of God as your guide always, use the right words, not your feelings or emotions. If God’s Word is dwelling in you, it must come out! The truth is that if we want to get the best out of them, we must consciously put the best in them even when we discipline or correct them. And nothing, absolutely nothing is better than God’s Word. We must use it to our advantage!