Who you are as a single individual is a reflection of who you’ll be as a husband or wife. It’s up to you to be self aware and tackle any habits or character traits that already is or could be problematic in your relationship leading to marriage. No one has that responsibility but you; no one can change for you but you. Don’t just expect that person to accept you as you are and leave it there.
While that is necessary, it’s also important to self examine yourself and adjust accordingly to the observations and input of the other person ESPECIALLY if it’s a cause of friction in your relationship. Don’t watch these things negatively affect your relationship with your eyes wide open. You wonder what the problem is while it’s staring at you in the face. Be quick about accepting responsibility and be quick about working on yourself before you get married. Marriage won’t automatically make you a better person.
And it’s wise not to spend your entire courtship season dealing with tension and friction; courtship should also be an enjoyable time of your life. It’s time to refresh your thinking and have the mentality that “the pathway to an enjoyable relationship and family life starts with me.” Then behave accordingly. If you’re with someone who couldn’t care less about tackling friction points and would rather maintain a tension filled and toxic relationship with you, run for YOUR life!