Everything about marriage rises and falls on spirituality! Marriage is a spiritual house and you cannot build/maintain it in the energy of the flesh. Regardless of how long you’ve been married, if you don’t keep your spiritual life charged, the enemy will take charge of your home. In marriage, the enemy is prepared to throw so much at us and if we’re not ready, he’ll throw us off balance. Don’t build your home with carnal methods; it’ll get you nowhere. Stop being ruled by your emotions and feelings!
Remember- To be spiritually minded is life and peace; to be carnally minded is death (Romans 8:6). It’s not just saying that you’re spiritual that makes it so; if you’re spiritually minded, it’ll show in your words/conduct. If you’re spiritually minded, when things are not right in your relationship and family, you’ll do what it takes to kick anything contrary to peace out. You can’t claim to be spiritual and yet strife, unforgiveness, division, etc are allowed to linger. If you’re prayerful, the effects MUST show at home.
If things are not as they ought to be, stop ignoring or accepting it! Humbly seek the help of the Holy Spirit to show you what may have gone wrong so it can be corrected. 1 Corinthians 3:1- For ye are yet carnal: for whereas there is among you envying, and strife, and divisions, are ye not carnal, and walk as men? You may feel your spouse is quarrelsome, remember it takes two to quarrel. Find ways to always promote peace! As long as you know what to do as a Christian, do it. If you keep yourself spiritually awake, you’ll find that with time, even your “quarrelsome” spouse will begin to calm down. But if you choose to join them in promoting division, at every opportunity, things will escalate.
Wisdom is profitable! Whatever you do, don’t suffer in silence. If your life is in danger, speak up! As you seek the help of the Holy Spirit, prayerfully also seek the help of mature counselors who can get you on the right track. If you’re still single, you’ll be wise to keep yourself spiritually alive from today. Not only will it help you in marriage, it will prevent you from saying “I do” to the wrong person.