The importance of going after the knowledge and understanding needed to run marriage and family effectively can’t be overemphasised. While wisdom builds a home, understanding establishes it, and knowledge fills the home with rare and precious jewels (Proverbs 24:3). Knowledge brings stability (Isaiah 33:6) and a person who lacks understanding is as good as dead (Proverbs 21:16).
Husbands are told to dwell with their wives according to knowledge (1 Peter 3:7) – I believe wives should do the same. While wisdom is the principal thing, we’re told it must be gotten with understanding (Proverbs 4:7). It’s obvious that the place of knowledge and understanding is crucial for any endeavour in life, including in the home. When a person lacks knowledge or understanding, a journey of 1 year can take 10 years! Resources and energy that could have been engaged in important things are wasted.
Even time that should be invested in being productive is lost. Too many families have been negatively impacted simply because knowledge and understanding is lacking. For every issue, there is a solution. It’s in God’s Word and in Holy Spirit (the most authentic marriage counsellor) inspired resource materials. No matter how long you’ve been married, if things are not working as they ought to, go after what you need. If you’re a single lady or gentleman, arm yourself appropriately. Marriage is not like everything else so you can never have too much information about it. Things won’t automatically change for the better for us without a deliberate and conscious effort to arm ourselves with the information (knowledge) and insight (understanding) that will help bring the best out of us and then out of our family life.
Read books, get counsel if necessary, just do what you need to do to get things right. Whatever you do, don’t wallow in pride and ignorance while your relationship suffers. The solution is readily available. Go after it and engage the truths you find. That is wisdom! Blessed weekend. – Kemi Oyedepo