A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones – Prov. 12:4! Strive to be a worthy wife, a woman of noble character, an excellent wife, a virtuous woman. A woman of a meek and gentle spirit (1 Peter 3:4). Who wouldn’t want such a wife? I’m still a work in progress but I’m one crown my husband proudly wears! Don’t be the wife who disgraces her husband. Don’t be the one who doesn’t know how to tame her tongue, a troublemaker, who gossips around town, spreading her husband’s imperfections to anyone who will listen. Those are signs of a foolish woman (Proverbs 14:1).
God created us as helpers so we must not turn ourselves into something we’re not. Be a helper and a supporter. An encourager and an asset! Keep striving to be the best you possible in all departments of your life. Do well outside your home but do better at home. Don’t excel outside the home and fall short within the home. God’s grace is sufficient for excellence in all that we do.
Your husband may not be behaving as you’d like but don’t allow his behavior to bring out the worst in you. Instead, be prayerful and seek help from the Holy Spirit. Be wise when you want issues resolved in the home. If you still have young children, remember you are an example to them; they are watching you closely, and they will speak of what they saw, in the future.
As always, if you feel yours is broken beyond repair, seek godly counsel from those who will do all they can to stir you in the right direction. There’s nothing that can’t be restored as long as God is involved, and as long as we are willing to cooperate with Him. Of course, a husband should also do what is right; it takes two to build a home.
Any husband who is loving correctly (Ephesians 3:25), will provoke positive results in his wife and see the proofs in his home. However this is specifically to admonish us as women to strive to be honorable and exemplary wives, circumstances notwithstanding. And to do all you can to bring out the best in your home! If you’re a single lady, don’t wait, now is the time to work on yourself!