Category Archives: Reflections



Regardless of what the world says, we are to glorify God in our body (1 Corinthians 6:20), which includes in our dressing. Keep private parts, private and stop “flaunting” yourself. It is actually shameful. Any man that finds it attractive, in all seriousness, is not in his right mind. The same man that is drawn to you because of your body, will be drawn to another woman who has a better body. I am usually embarrassed when I see women who wear clothes that are, perhaps very short and they are constantly pulling them down every second. Why put yourself through that in the first place? Someone told me that her husband actually likes it when she dresses like that. And, my answer is always that he may like it now because he wants to show you off or whatever other reason he may have, but that likeness is for a moment. When men start flocking to you, he would feel disrespected as a husband and most importantly, when you have female children who start dressing like you, his senses would come back to life and what he found attractive, he would suddenly despise. In fact, many men begin to insult their wives, calling them terrible role models for their children. So, do yourself a favor, and set a standard for yourself.

We should do all things decently and in order even in our dressing (1 Corinthians 14:40). Be modest in your dressing; if you are a Christian, let it show. Stop following the patterns of the world. Modesty is not majorly an issue of clothing but is majorly from the heart because your outward appearance is a visible and silent testimony of your Christian values. Modesty shows your dignity; it makes you worthy of respect.  And, modesty really has nothing to do with fashion; styles change all the time, but modesty never changes, the generation notwithstanding.

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true beauty

Every woman needs to know this! Your beauty is not defined by the makeup and jewellery you have on. Haven’t you seen many “ugly” gorgeous women? Well, I have. The ones who speak with foul language and have terrible attitudes, the ones who are argumentative and proud, the ones who have no respect for God or anybody, the ones whose hearts are full of wickedness! Despite their physical beauty, they are still considered unattractive. Why? Because in as much as we like looking at good looking people, we cannot deny the fact that true beauty comes from within; we cannot deny that a defective character has the power to erase any kind of apparent beauty. Dear woman, The One who made you says you are beautifully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) without makeup (hair, eye lashes, lip gloss, etc) and without any jewellery. There is nothing wrong if you choose to use them (I believe that’s a personal thing so I won’t dwell on it) but please remind yourself that your confidence cannot be derived from such things. If you choose to use them, they should only enhance your already defined beauty! If you are not confident in your skin, just as you are first, then no amount of additions can make you confident and even attractive! That means each time they come off, your confidence deflates! You are more than that. Anybody who tells you that you are not worthy to be called beautiful unless you have makeup (wigs, weaves, eye lashes, etc) on, is a liar from the pit of hell and does not have your best interest at heart! Yes, physical beauty pleases the eyes of others but people are blessed by the beauty that comes from within. That is what they are attracted to! Your inner man, your character, and most of all – a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4) – that is what makes you beautiful! Please renew your mind concerning yourself and don’t waste another second putting yourself down or giving anybody the right to do so!

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So, as you know already: I am a woman. Lol! That means every now and then, you will find something just for ladies on my blog. While CPYF is for everyone, I can’t help but speak to my fellow women from time to time. It is important to remind ourselves of who we are in Christ and not allow anyone else determine our worth. The good news is that there is also a section for men and you can find it under the categories. I am not a man but thank God for great examples such as my one and only hubby, who I can draw from.

This write up below was on FB some time back but I have just tweaked it a tiny bit.


As a woman, don’t be so engrossed with your outer man at the detriment of your spirit man. We have the tendency to get so carried away with the latest hairstyles, makeup, jewellery, etc that we pay more attention to what matters to humans than what matters to God – our spirit man. Each time you look in the mirror, and when you are around others, your spirit man should be radiating first, not your lipstick. No wonder the bible makes mention of this because the truth is that if care is not taken, we may find ourselves flourishing outwardly while our spirit is as dry as the desert. Go after the Word of God until it is dwelling richly inside of you (Colossians 3:16). Pay more attention to building your spirit than you do, to enhancing your physical appearance. I am not against looking good; yes do look good, yes, do feel good but make sure your spirit man is in a much brighter state!

 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (1 Peter 3:3-4)

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