“So encourage each other and build each other up…” – 1 Thessalonians 5:11.
There is absolutely NOTHING like the encouragement, the cheering on, the building up that comes from a spouse. Especially when their words are filled with grace and seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6). It literally makes you feel like you can accomplish anything no matter the barriers in the way. More importantly, it always makes you want to become a better version of yourself (spirit, soul, and body). I strongly believe that more and more husbands, wives, even parents need to do more of building up and eliminate the tearing down.
The world is full of more than enough discouragement and evil counsel. I say it a lot and I mean it – your spouse is your advantage from God. Not only that, you are also meant to be their own advantage from God. When both individuals take responsibility for what is expected of them in a marriage, no husband, no wife, no child will feel the need to look outside the home for what God expects us get in abundance within the home. Don’t allow your frustrations or irritations to get the best of you. Just as you need to minister grace for your loved ones shortcomings, they need to do the same for you. The more you keep building up, what’ll happen? They’ll be built up! They’ll be infused with confidence and feel secure that they have a safe haven as far as humans go, that they can run to at any point in time. And when they begin to feel that way, their attitude towards your relationship and family will change for the better and the best!
Practice this exercise for the next 30 days – Building up ONLY. Encouraging ONLY. Cheering on ONLY! Be conscious about it and watch the difference it provokes in your relationship and in your home! If you really take it seriously and do it, it’ll show! A word for single ladies and gentlemen – If you’re in a relationship with someone who dampens your spirit and makes you feel worse for your shortcomings or mistakes, please run for your life! This is not the time for sentiments.
And to anyone who is married, if you feel you need godly counsel to get your marriage back on tack, please prayerfully seek for it and you will find the right person by the leading of the Holy Spirit. As long as you’re ready to do what God requires of you, He will crown your efforts. Contrary to popular belief, misery does not come with marriage, especially a Christ centred one.
I’m praying for you from the depth of my heart that the building up, the encouragement, the cheering on that may be missing in your home, will begin to find expression in Jesus’ name. Amen!