“…..for all the city of my people doth know that thou art a virtuous/worthy woman…..” (Ruth 3:11).
Boaz said this to Ruth and I thought it was such a powerful testimony of her. Even before he chose to marry her, he was obviously doing his homework, carrying out his “checks” on her. What do people say about you as a single man or woman? What do people say about the person you want to marry? He may be good to you but how does he treat others? She may respect you but is she rude to everybody else? Does she keep malice with others? Does he get into physical fights with others? Don’t overlook any negative behaviour please; otherwise you may end up being on the receiving end when you do get married! Earlier in that chapter, he commended Ruth for not going after young men, rich or poor. He was not going to just marry her blindly, he was paying close attention to her and he went by the results he got. What do others observe about you? What are your results like? Boaz was still talking about her with the people around and finding out information for himself, while observing her. The truth is that many single men and women have not been approached or given a chance simply because of their behaviour to others. They may look attractive on the outside but their inside is the exact opposite; how they treat others and handle situations is not a good testimony. Whoever you want to marry should be finding out about you from others and you also MUST do the same concerning your potential spouse. And when the “checks” are carried out, what are the results? Don’t say “that is how I am” if you have a bad temper; instead work on controlling your temper! Do the work required to make a person eager and willing to approach you and eventually marry you. When you carry out your “checks” on a potential spouse, what are the results? Don’t ignore what others say about them. Do your homework on the person and be observant. Don’t use the “he/she will change approach”. And don’t be blinded by the physical or how they treat you. How they treat others is also vital. How handsome or how beautiful a woman is cannot make up for any character flaws (dishonest, cunning, lack of integrity). If such things are not dealt with, there will be no change. When the results come in, critically analyse them before proceeding and don’t go further until you come to a point you believe, and are convinced that you both can co-exist in genuine peace!