The right way…

Folks, if you want to get your spouse to see something from your perspective, always remember that there is a right way to do so. Sometimes we don’t see the results we’d like because our approach is wrong. If you use the wrong approach, of course you will see wrong results. Differences of opinion don’t have to lead to fighting, quarrelling, or arguing. Don’t accept such things as normal because it would give room for strife, which leads to disorder and evil of every kind (James 3:16).
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Look, those different opinions can be handled with peace, leading to progress. What you need is heavenly wisdom. The wisdom from above is peaceable and reasonable (James 3:17). Raising your voice, insulting your spouse, etc just because they are yet to understand your point of view is not only immature but foolish. If you communicate effectively, the information you’re trying to pass across will be rightly understood and accurately interpreted. Your spouse may be argumentative but instead of joining in, be prayerful and use wisdom (it is better than strength) to diffuse tension.
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If you happen to be an argumentative person (you know yourself), learn to calm down and allow the Holy Spirit to help you be a man/woman of peace. NOBODY likes an argumentative spouse! Neither of you are perfect; discuss, reason together, and resolve issues respectfully. Single folks, please accept this truth also; it’ll help you! Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling (Proverbs 20:3). So, work on it until it’s no more part of your relationship/family. That is wisdom! Seek godly counsel if you need it. Wishing you God’s best in your marriage and family life. Cheers…

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