Anything done in love is done well! Many of us know this quote but few of us are willing to put it to action, particularly at home. You must be love motivated in all that you do, even when your spouse (or children) may not be deserving of it. Love never fails (1 Cor. 13:8). The expressions of love never fails!
Forgiveness, gentleness, kindness, patience, etc are the building blocks of love. We can’t have one without the other and sometimes one needs to be expressed more than another. You may need to be extremely patient today and extremely forgiving tomorrow. That’s marriage! That’s family! That is the God-kind of love! Whichever component of Love needs to be expressed, do it well.
Where you are the cause of the problems, where you enjoy fighting, bitterness; anything that promotes division and strife, you are expressing hatred (Prov. 10:12). Love understands imperfections yet covers those flaws. The recipient doesn’t have to be perfect to receive this love. Love finds no fault because Love can only grow and prosper where faults are forgiven (Prov. 17:9).
Please note that this doesn’t mean issues that are dividing your family shouldn’t be addressed until a solution is reached. And it doesn’t mean if your life, health, etc are at stake, you shouldn’t take action. As always, prayerfully seek godly counsel and professional help if you need them! Our experiences and that of others notwithstanding, it doesn’t nullify the truth that we have a duty to keep expressing this love. What is done in Love, is done well and will always provoke the right results! Cheers…